Hmm wow, great question. For me I think it's about propriety: always speaking and acting and dressing just so, doing everything properly/appropriately/competently, and making it look effortless & magical without ever revealing your methods. He's incredibly boxed-in/constrained by his class & station in life, but makes the best of it and pulls it off gracefully. You could argue it's almost a metaphor for being a woman, now that I think of it. So that's why I think I've enjoyed writing stories about him overcoming all these rules of propriety that are stifling & repressing him. It's wish fulfillment. I think myself and everyone else who feels like they're forced to conform to standards of "conventional respectability" should get to transgress them in some way at least once in a while.