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Kissing Etc.

[(Anonymous)]

Reading some fics and watching some old movies, I found myself wondering: do people automatically start the tongue action on practically the first kiss? Is it inevitable? Or do people keep their mouths more or less shut for a while or maybe even for the first make-out session?

In old movies they were not allowed to french kiss, so even when there was ardent kissing mouths stayed closed. Is this at all realistic? Does it matter? Would you have a problem writing a kissing scene without tongues? I'm pondering writing one. But I've been kissing the same person for years.

Re: Kissing Etc.

[(Anonymous)]

I agree with the other poster that preferences are so individual that almost nothing is unrealistic. Then again, realistic is one thing, but realistic AND hot is another!

In my personal experience, there tend to be more like three stages: closed mouth, then open mouth, then tongues. Just staying at stage 1 for any extended period of time sounds awkward to me. All my first kisses with someone new reach at least stage 2. More intense ones reach stage 3. I really dislike when people use too much tongue or use their tongue weirdly. I rarely describe much about the tongues when I write kisses because even mentioning them gives me a mental image of someone using way too much awkward jabby tongue, unless the author is careful to describe it right.

I kissed someone new last night and they used too much tongue and it was not great!

Re: Kissing Etc.

[(Anonymous)]

My first first kiss, the guy not only stuck his tongue in my mouth but spat a mouthful of Jack Daniels into mine! NOT COOL.

Re: Kissing Etc.

[(Anonymous)]

No, that's really not cool. I'm sorry to hear that.

Re: Kissing Etc.

[(Anonymous)]

I agree. At least stage 2 with someone new.

I don't want to say that I had mostly bad kissers when it came to tongues but I only ever enjoyed it the way one of my partners did it.

In fics I prefer less detailed descriptions about it so I can imagine them doing it the way I like it best.

I don't care much about realism in fics to be honest. Rather less of that but better than reality could ever be. IMO that's what fics are all about.

Re: Kissing Etc.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm so picky about fics because I want them to be very realistic but also better than realism at the same time. The best possible version of reality, I guess? Because all my favorite fics have some distinct element of imperfection/idiosyncrasy. There needs to be fumbling or awkwardness or apprehension or miscommunication or something. Or a character has a strange quirk or kink that's weird but somehow still hot. I want it to be like really good low-budget amateur porn, not glossy overdone pro studio porn. It takes me out of the story when the characters are all impossibly fit with gigantic cocks that get instantly hard and the sex is always the pinnacle of perfection.

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[(Anonymous)]

It takes me out of the story when the characters are all impossibly fit with gigantic cocks that get instantly hard and the sex is always the pinnacle of perfection.

Personally I'm a fan of big cocks but the instant hardness is something to ponder. Especially if the man is older, or nervous.

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[(Anonymous)]

I'm also a fan of big, just not insanely huge. And I'm a fan of hard, just not magically hard.

Re: Kissing Etc.

[(Anonymous)]

One story I'm doodling on off to one side has Jeeves upset and so he's flaccid. It takes a fair amount of hand work from Bertie to get it hard. Because that happens and I find it hot.

Re: Kissing Etc.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes! I support all of this!

Re: Kissing Etc.

[(Anonymous)]

It started with a kiss and now it's cocks. 😅

I like them small. Not tiny but smaller than the average and I'm a huge fan of responsiveness so I'm into the quickly arousable type.

Re: Kissing Etc. - Brilliantine

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I was responding to the headcanon question and thought about some tropes in J&W kissing and sex scenes.

Bertie musses Jeeves's hair and sometimes it gets wavy or curly. Or it just gets mussed.

Here's the thing. When you look at men wearing brilliantine/hair creme/pomade in movies of the time, that shit ain't moving. And if it does, it's in sticky straight strands. The stickiness was probably okay for people at the time since it was standard. Once I went to a costume party with a date who used pomade on his hair--we had to buy Prell (the shampoo most like dishwashing detergent) and shampoo his hair daily for almost a week to get the stuff out!

Probably nobody actually wants that kind of realism but I can't help thinking about it when Bertie musses Jeeves's hair into wild curls.

Re: Kissing Etc. - Brilliantine

[(Anonymous)]

Interesting! But yes you're right, mussed curls are so much cuter and otherwise plausible, so this is one place where I'm happy to let realism take a hike. :-)

Re: Kissing Etc. - Brilliantine

[(Anonymous)]

So very true.

It's such a shame when you can't run your fingers through your partner's "clean" hair.